Have You Talked to Your Pet Today?

There’s something about the relationships we have with our pet that is unique and special. Is it because most interactions and expressions are unspoken and just felt or intuitively understood? Is it because of the unconditional acceptance and non-judgement? After all, no matter what kind of mood you are in your pet will unquestionably accept it and you just as you are. During this holiday season, simply sitting on the couch or going for a walk with your pet can bring a sense of comfort and peace when perhaps not every other relationship in your life feels safe or predictable. From my perspective, these relationships are unique for exactly those reasons. They can help foster healthy attachment and relationships with other humans, too.

Why don’t we humans talk more about these relationships with our pets? Research shows that humans are more likely to turn to their pets rather than a family member (with the exception of a significant other) in times of need. We long for understanding, easy communication, and connection within our human relationships and yet often overlook that we are able to have this on some level with our pets. This is not to say that pet relationships can take the place of human ones, but instead to recognize that our pet relationships can teach us so much about ourselves and how we are able to connect. Research also shows animals as companions can help humans emotionally heal from attachment wounds, traumatic experiences, anxiety, depression, and can help reduce physical ailments such as high blood pressure and weak immune systems. Horses and dogs specifically have been studied and found to have complex thoughts, feelings, sensory perceptions, and the ability to read human cues and respond to them. Animal companions know us, respond to us, and accept us as we are.

Birds, fish, lizards, frogs, snakes, cats, dogs, horses, etc. are invaluable members of the family. Whether you are 5, 50, or 95, these relationships with pets give us something special. So, hug your pet and take a moment to notice how you physically and emotionally feel when they are right by your side.

Written by Kelly Rachu, MA, LAMFT

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