Couples Therapy for Sexual Concerns

Is your sex life in a rut? Have you and your spouse lost that spark? Is sex less frequent and less passionate than it used to be? If so, You’re not alone, and there is hope. Whether due to a lack of connection or a concern such as adjusting to sex after childbirth, dealing with erectile dysfunction, painful intercourse, or lack of sexual desire, sexual concerns are common. How can therapy help and more specifically, how can couples therapy help you and your spouse get back into the groove of a passionate and pleasurable sex life?

Couples therapy can help in many ways to restore healthy sexual functioning to your relationship. Sex is hard to talk about, not just with each other but can be pretty intimidating to talk about with a therapist. But talking about it and exploring what goes on between you and your spouse in and outside of the bedroom can make a big difference in your sex life. In fact, talking about what happens outside of the bedroom is just as important as talking about what happens in between the sheets. For many couples, a sense of disconnection in everyday life can have a huge impact on the willingness of each partner to be intimate. For many women, arguments and feeling out of touch can be a big turn off. Women typically need emotional repair and the make-up before they feel comfortable engaging in intercourse. Unfortunately, many men desire the opposite. They may view sexual activity as the repair and make-up and discount the need to talk it out before hopping into bed. Finding ways to communicate and resolve disagreements and reconnect can do wonders for your sex life. Couples therapy can help in this way to give couples tools to resolve arguments and find ways to be more intimate emotionally so that they can be more intimate sexually.

Marriage counseling can help to restore healthy sexual functioning to your relationship, our therapists are experienced in working with marriages and sexuality. We offer couples therapy models such as Emotionally Focused Therapy which works to examine the underlying concerns that couples face that may impact their sexuality. This model and others work well with couples facing sexual concerns, especially those frustrated with the lack of frequency of sex and the lack of intimacy or connection they feel with their spouse. If you and your spouse would like to increase the frequency and intimacy of your sex life, give Wild Tree Psychotherapy a call or schedule with us online.

Written by Katie Claus, MA LAMFT